Relationships are difficult no matter how you look at them. Two people with different personalities and life experiences decide that they want to intertwine their lives into one and there are bound to be bumps and obstacles along the way. God created us all special. We are made in his image but we are all given different talents and aspirations we wish to achieve through life. How are we suppose to live in harmony if we are so different?
The bible is our guidebook to life but sometimes it is easy to forget that there is an immense amount of advice on love and marriage available to us within those pages. One of the most important things to remember comes from John 15:12: “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” This is a simple command but it can be the hardest to follow. How can you love someone who has hurt you? or someone who has disappointed you? Love is not an option it is a requirement in life and relationships.
You may not love the sins that are committed against you, but you are asked to continue to love the sinner either way. Forgiveness is an intricate and important condition related to the way God has commanded us to love. Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to each other, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Honestly, forgiving and asking for forgiveness created the most turmoil in relationships. I have heard often that the strongest marriages are made by two people who become great at forgiving one another.
Love is not the only thing needed for a successful marriage. Faith and hope are essential attributes in a stable relationship. 1 Corinthians 13:13 states “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” Colossians 3:14 also says “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” In other words, love will be the driving force but hope and love and needed to balance relationships. A marriage is a collaboration between two people finding their equilibrium with God.
Ecclesiastes 4:9: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?” This particular verse speaks to me on several levels. First and foremost, it speaks that marriage makes you stronger. You have someone to help you in your low points and to fight for what is best for your family. The second point it makes is illustrating the difficulty of standing alone in the world. I find the second point interesting because with God we never stand alone. He is always our partner in life and love so we must never forget that.
My most favorite bible verse comes from John 15:13:
Greater love than this no man hath, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
This verse is my favorite because I feel like it gives me a goal in life. If my actions are not beneficial to the world, then what am I accomplishing in my life, marriage and family? I should be ready and willing to sacrifice anything, including my life, for love. What are your favorite verses that you use as advice in your love life and marriage? How has it been beneficial to helping you grow as an individual and as a couple in faith? The bible is our guide for this life and it should be utilized as the great resource it truly is.
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